About me

My name is Jennifer Damashek. I am writing to you from my old farmhouse in Aroostook County, USA, where I live with my husband near the woods. I look out my kitchen window at a sparkling pond, often visited by a mama moose and other non-human kin.

I began this project because I longed for relationships like the ones I describe here. I want relationships that are mutual, slow, and nourishing. I wanted people who would want to stay in my life, people I count on when I really needed something. And there weren’t many people I could count on in that way.

There have been people, women, especially, with whom I felt the beginnings of something real. But in our society, we don’t often have patterns or relational structures that support deepening, widening, and staying. And at the time, I didn’t have the inner strength, clarity, or capacity to ask for something more permanent.

This is one of the reasons this project exists. To name what is missing, not just in my life, but in many lives, and to practice a different way forward.

The second reason I began this project is I believe this way of relating is one of the key missing ingredients in our world today. We need honesty, real connection, and gentleness. Without it, even the best intentions falter.

I’ve been a spiritual seeker and activist most of my life. But in both my spiritual communities and my solidarity economy circles, I rarely experienced slow, intimate relationships that felt aligned with what we were trying to build.

Even when the values were beautiful, the way we related often wasn’t. I could feel the gap.

The closest resonance I found was in the principles of social permaculture. But even then, I wasn’t personally invited into real relationship. And that’s what I wanted most. I wasn’t looking for more teachings about relationship. I was looking for someone to say: “Come sit with me. Let’s live this together.”

So I stopped waiting for someone to create it for me. I decided to create it myself. What you have found here is a living invitation.

This project is not about fixing people. It’s about experimenting with new patterns of care.

I don’t believe we can meet the complexity of our time without learning how to be in mutually nourishing relationships. Not just in theory, but in practice, in our bodies, in our choices, in the way we show up when things get hard.

I’m still learning. But this is my offering. Not as an expert, as someone longing for a different way, and putting that longing into practice.

If anything I’ve shared here stirs something in you, whether a memory, a longing, or a curiosity, I’d love to hear it.

You can write to me, or simply sit with what’s arising. Either way, the invitation remains open.